Countdown to “I Do”- 100 Days!


100 days from today I will be walking down the aisle, saying “I do” and changing my last name by marrying my best friend.  Wow! Time flies when you’re as stressed out as we are right now.

It’s not even entirely wedding stuff that we’re stressed about, but life in general has gotten crazy busy and turned this apartment upside down. That being said, there is still a wedding coming and we still have a lot of little things to finish.

Invitations are out! We can check that bad boy off of our list.  I actually was more stressed about it than I needed to be, but while the process of the job took a significant amount of time, it still wasn’t so bad.  The small tasks like stamping the envelope with one stamp and the RSVP envelope with another, then making sure a registry card and RSVP envelope was in every invite, return address, address, etc etc.  All of the tasks weren’t daunting (except getting guest labels printed..that took the most time), but they added up to quite a few hours of Sex and the City while I did this job alone.  Now that the invites are behind me, I now can get excited ((sarcasm..) about  collecting RSVPs and turning them into seating charts and “who is eating what” lists.  Joy..

We think Erik found a ring he likes.  Since I am not a wife-to-be that is okay with the idea of her businessman, traveling all the time husband not wearing a ring, he’s finally come to terms with this fact and I think we found a great one.  It hasn’t been purchased yet, but hopefully this weekend we can check that one off of our list.  My wedding band was purchased a week or so after we were engaged, since Erik cleverly got an engagement ring that has a band available for its unique shape.

We booked a DJ!! We were given a good deal (again, thanks to my friend and wedding planner Mike) on an amazing company called Okyne MediaLab.  We did a Skype meeting with the owner late one night and he was incredible: very kind, very knowledgeable and made us very excited at the idea of having them at our wedding.  We are given access to online tools where we can not only choose songs for “must play,” “can play,”  and “DON’T play” lists, but we can write out and choose the musical details of every piece of the reception right from our online account.  This is a great tool, as we can also listen to clips of songs, and view suggested lists for various dances like first dance and the father and bride dance.  Erik and I haven’t really gotten the chance to sit and play with it yet (when have we had the time?) but we are really looking forward to using this tool to get our music organized and begin to truly envision our reception.  

I’ve now entered the stage where I’m having mild freak outs about the little details.  I have the dress, but I need undies/shape wear, shoes, and jewelry.  Ahh!  My bridesmaids need shoes and jewelry, but no one is here to come out shopping with me to browse.. AHH!  Do we have a guest book? Do I wait until after my shower to buy one?Little things like that.  On top of the stress of my jobs (which are blessings, don’t get me wrong), playing housewife because nothing would be clean if I didn’t because of my fiancé who is never around because he’s off doing some sort of school/business/networking activity until Heaven knows when every night, and emotionally coping with that situation (seeing how now would be a great time to have friends and family around, and while I do have friends, when preparing for your wedding day you want the people who have known you more than a few months) I’m finding that the littlest stress can sometimes sent me reeling, which sucks.  I never used to be like that.  I’m actually really looking forward to January, not only because of the wedding, but because the wedding will be over and there will be a lot fewer “little things” to turn me into a crazy person.  It’s hard when both of us are so stressed at the same time and we barely have time for one another.

So, 100 days to go!  At the end of October I fly home for my bridal shower and bachelorette party (what can I do when I live so far away from everyone else? Make the most of my time at home), since I’m pretty sure I won’t be back in Illinois until Wedding time!  Other than that, we keep on trucking along with all of the big pieces in place and all of the little pieces looming over my head waiting for me to accomplish them and/or crack under the pressure.

Until tomorrow (for my Friday 5 post), happy almost Friday from your trying-not-to-get-too-stressed Bride 🙂

August Round up: The good and the not so good.

Yet another month has come to a close.  How crazy is that?!  It’s officially back to school time, which is actually one of my favorite times of the year.  More on that in a future post.

Let’s talk about August.


The Good

Visiting Home

As you may have seen in my more recent posts, I started August off with a visit to Illinois to get some major wedding planning accomplished. It was a crazy busy weekend full of appointments and decisions, but just being home, seeing the puppies, being able to sing in Praise Team and seeing family (including Erik’s) was wonderful.  You can read all about my trip by clicking Part 1 or Part 2.

Weight Watchers At Work Leader

I’m officially able to be an “at work” Weight Watchers leader now, which basically means I have all of the materials to run WW meetings out of my house…  Over the past week I have gotten SO MUCH stuff sent to me that I have no where to put it.  I have a WW scale of my very own (like the ones in the centers), a bin or two of product and a ton of paperwork.  I’m putting this down as a good thing because if all goes well I may end up with some meetings to actually lead in the near future.  It’s a bit chaotic and I’m stressing about having no place to put this stuff, but at least it is a positive work opportunity.  Today was my last week of finishing out an at work series in North Raleigh.  Big commute, but at least I got to do some work for the company the last few weeks.  Mid September I also gain a meeting at a store near my apartment, which will be nice.

Voice Lessons

This week was my first week of fall term voice lessons at the Chapel Hill School of Musical Arts (CHSMA for short).  I already have 12 students and was asked to open up an extra evening in my schedule, which my boss is pretty sure they can fill up soon.  If WW picks up and I get another lesson or two, I’ll be able to drop Kohls, and hopefully that means no more retail for me EVER.  I am so thankful for the blessing of being able to teach music.  If I can’t get out there and perform for a living, at least I can make money inspiring others to do so. My owners are great, my studio is 5 minutes from my apartment, and my students have been wonderful so far.  What an awesome job to stumble upon when I started looking at the possibility of moving.  God does look out for me 🙂

The Not so Good

Laziness, Stress, and Negativity

Confession time: I’ve been super lazy about tracking, working out, and sort of in general.  Oh sure, I get to the gym almost every day, but the fire I used to have behind my workouts seems to have vanished, which makes them not as good as they used to be.  My coping mechanism for stress tends to be eating (since my love for the workout has seemed to disappear, which used to be my stress relief), which results in me being a bit more forgiving with what goes into my mouth vs. what’s on my tracker.. the result is a slight rise on the scale.  The amount is pretty laughable given how stressed I am by it, only a few lbs, but it’s more than it should be.  Enter the stress and negativity that makes working out a chore and all of the things that turn this into a vicious cycle that seems to have no end and has me feeling miserable.  I’m also stressing about playing housewife when I am in fact not one (not for a few more months anyway) and balancing 3 jobs, the fitness, the housekeeping, the fiancé the spends all of his time at home studying in his room, and this blog, which I love, but don’t have the time to give it what it deserves…oh yeah, and planning a wedding..  The result is this sloppy, stressed out mess of a person currently blogging in between voice lessons.  I already have several ideas on how to use the Back to School mentality to try and keep me from crumbling, starting with a WW Back to Basics challenge that I joined and will tell you about in another post.

That pretty much sums up the bad..  I don’t have any product favorites or anything this month.  Wow, August was a bit lame in the area of trying new things.  Hopefully September will bring more excitement, passion for life, and new things for me to try (and write about).

Happy Back to School season, friends.  How do you celebrate (or not celebrate..)this time of year?